Friday, April 30, 2010

The right to dream!

Today when I had taken Vignesh to OT, I had to wait for a while. There was Parent-Teacher meet happening in the adjacent room. In addition to providing PT and OT, the center also run a small special school and a few kids study there. Its a very small place but they are extremely committed in their work. Since the place was small, I couldn't help hearing the conversation that was taking place. Although, the parents were discussing simple things like numerals and day-to-day activities, their voices were filled with pride, dreams and the aspirations for their kids.

I remember an incident that happened last January. My son was not even 6 months old then. I had been trying to find a good therapist and was asking details from one of my close friends whose little cousin was undergoing PT for CP. All I wanted was a reference to a good therapist. But, when my friend calls back, she tells me how the therapist said that if I start early my son could be trained. So that when he grows up, I could set up a shop for him to work and take care of. And, she sounded excited about this! Excuse me! Doesn't this sound crazy to anyone or is it just me?

Why should people be discussing what my son would be doing for his living twenty years from now, just because he has special needs? And, why does she expect me to be excited even about the prospect of my son a job? I just wonder if this friend would be as excited when I tell her I'd set up a shop and wouldn't mind employing her children there too.

Its isn't about the nature of the job. Its about the attitude. That is when I began to understand how people expect you to stop dreaming once you have a child with special needs. I dreamt of so many things I wanted to achieve professionally and my parents had so many dreams about me too. And, I don't think I have fulfilled any of that. So, when they give chance to me, why shouldn't people with special needs be given a chance too? And, when my parents had a right to dream about my future, why shouldn't I do the same about my son's? Why should people talk about acceptance when I have high dreams about my son's professional future when the same people can dream about their typical kid's future even before they know what their kids are capable of?

The point is I do have all the rights to dream about my son's future. And, when my son grows up, he can choose a profession that suits his skills and liking. If my dreams come true, I would be happy. If not, I would be equally happy too about whatever he does, just as my parents are happy about me today.

I just hope that these people realise that our kids are too young for their advice or career guidance. And, if they really need them, we as parents can handle the situation without their help!

Thursday, April 29, 2010


Rest in peace, beautiful Carly!

May God give strength to the George family even as their little angel is flying high in the heaven!

Monday, April 5, 2010

Vignesh with Specs

Vignesh with glasses

He took it better than I expected. At least, he has it on for a few minutes before trying to throw it away. Not sure, if its because it helps him to see things better or if it is too close to his eyes for him to notice it.

This is how he would look if he was my daughter. lol! I better hide this photo before he grows up and kills me for dressing him up like this. I'm going to miss his long hair after July.

Vignesh's second trip to the beach.

I choose to post the dark picture deliberately. You know, until I reduce my weight, I prefer to stay in the dark. :P